being a bad bitch, or being a meanie i feel like is in the past. it’s washed, yk what i mean. if you think about it: being genuinely nice with no hidden agenda does take a lot of practice, but it becomes almost as easy as being mean and careless.
in my explanation of how things work. i feel like there is always good and bad and there is balance. the idea of good and bad is definitely subjective. however, i feel like all people are born good, it’s just that they let their lives define them. which i know sounds controversial and irrational, knowing how many people who have done bad things there are. but they thrive on being defined as “bad”, when in fact it’s just their traumas. their “ego minds” have taken over their lives and that’s their own journey. obviously there should be consequences for those people, but it is what it is and their actions are definitely self-explanatory.
when you realise that we are controlled by our ego and it feeds on using all your defensive mechanisms it just makes it easier to observe yourself. and everything starts by observing yourself. i feel like when i do that even if im being impulsive and react in a negative way i step back and i take a note, which is a big step. in that way you detach from your ego mind and start feeling better, because your frequency, “the air” around you, everything you do is so much more than that. therefore you attract likewise.
it does take a lot of practice to be vibrating at a higher frequency. and it does not happen in a straight line. obviously the next step after observing is taking action whenever it is needed, not being afraid to make mistakes. moulding one’s behaviour to the principles that define your highest self.
cause what do we get from being careless and thinking:” just because i know i am better than everyone, no one deserves my energy and time”? we probably do get a lot, but for me the whole way of achieving that would be so boring, that the achievement itself looses its value. i would change this paradigm for myself in that way : “ i know i am the best version of myself, in my own movie that i direct, but everyone is equal here “. cause really it is nice to have self-esteem and confidence. but we don’t like extremities on this blog. cause if you’re on a plane with someone you evaluate as “not as important” as you and the plane crashes. the same things go through our heads and we all die. you are not more in this situation(the situation representing the human species living on our planet collectively🤭).
i like to believe that mistakes and suffering should not be romanticised but regarded as something that is part of everyone’s journey and is beautiful. because we do learn from those two and we do grow from them. so what’s keeping you back from understanding people and realising that judging them for current or past mistakes would do nothing but take away from your time and energy? don’t you have more self-respect to value those two resources and watch out where you give them away? it is hard to be understanding and empathetic and i know that not everyone is wired that way, but not judging also makes your life and the one of people around you better.
however, i’m not saying that life should be all rainbows and flowers and we should perceive everyone as good. because people do bad things consciously or unconsciously, mostly under the pressure of their ego. in order to protect your energy from those people and situations all you can do is just set healthy boundaries. it is hard to balance being nice and protecting yourself. and i myself am still learning to do so. because you can’t be giving your good energy to entities and people that are just designed to take. your energy is endless - of course. but your time isn’t. it’s okay to see the good in people and sometimes to be naive, as long as you know your limits and don’t let yourself hurt.
another thing there is to note is that the line between being genuinely kind and unhealthily good to everyone is thin. you should be aware what deserves your time and effort…
here are a few steps that helped me to be kind to people and also maintain high frequency and healthy boundaries
1.establish your values and boundaries- make sure you observe yourself and your behaviour and try not to think from the perspective of the ego while doing that
2.forgive yourself and forgive others- now that you know that it all stems from ego-let go
3. always remind yourself that we are all connected- despite each and every one of us having our own unique paths
4. be forgiving, but not forgetting- you can always understand from what place someone has taken certain actions, but that doesn’t mean to let them stay in your life
5. be conscious with your behaviour- always keep track of your reactions. i do make mistakes myself sometimes but i hold myself accountable for them afterwards